a lifetime away.

Screen shot 2014-09-23 at 8.55.02 PMYou look at an old photograph and can’t remember the feelings you felt or the person you were. It’s like looking at a strangers life, and how weird it is to be a stranger to yourself. There was a day when you couldn’t imagine being the age you are now. It was such a foreign thought. It felt a lifetime away.

When did you become everything you said you’d never be? When did you lose hope in who you are? Let go of the missed opportunities that spun your life a different direction. Take the person you lost, and the person you are, and figure out the person you’re supposed to be. Until then, you’re an outsider, looking onto a life that’s already past.

escape yourself.

UntitlecxzdThere’s no boat that can take you far enough, no plane that can take you high enough, no car that can take you fast enough, to escape yourself. You need somewhere to go when reality starts to burden and you’re suffocated by your mind. Life’s a game with no time outs, no free passes. If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t change it, you don’t hate it that much. How do you expect to run from your problems if you can’t even put them down?

motivation.

Untitled c xSome people are simply motivation. Your enemy should make you want to be better, your ex should make you want to do better. You need someone to push you on stage despite stage fright. Someone to chase you in threat so you’ll run. Someone to taint your once confidence so you’re driven to get it back.

Don’t say someone never gave you anything because for better or for worse, they gave you a reason to wake up in the morning. As long as you come out stronger, you can’t wish for anything better. So, don’t feel sorry for yourself in hopes that someone else will too.

5 childhood games that prepared us for adulthood.

Little did we know growing up, that our school yard games were preparing us for the honest truth about life. Ignorance is bliss and the games that once made us smile and laugh, are now the rules we love to break and the games we dread playing.

childhood1. Telephone. Telephone reveals the truth about the corruption in our communication system. There’s more entertainment in making assumptions and twisting the truth to the point where it tells a different story. We know the truth is somewhere out there, but we accept whatever we’re given in it’s place. There’s only so many times you can say ‘operator’ before you’re forced to shrug, laugh, and believe what you think you heard.

2. Simon Says. We’ve grown up, taught to obey authority. Promised that once we’re adults, we’ll be introduced to freedom. Simon Says tells us the importance in listening to a ‘higher power’. If someone says jump, you say how high, and you fall victim to the punishment if you chose to disobey. Don’t step out of line, don’t dance to your own beat and don’t think these rules ever stop applying.

3. Three-Legged Race. We think the finish line is within our reach, that the strength of our legs is enough to carry us to success. We don’t understand that we’re not in this game alone. Life’s a three-legged race. We can’t win without help. We can’t win without teamwork. It’s a lot harder to work against life then with it.

4. Red Rover. Red Rover taught us the instant betrayal that comes when picking sides. We had seconds to decide if we would break the rules and run lightly, in hopes to return to our team or we’d aim for the weak in hopes to carry out our plan. There’s irony in being called over by a group working to keep you out.

5. Duck, Duck, Goose. We were once told we’re all equals, we’re cut from the same cloth. However, when someone is pointed out as different, we’re taught to run in the opposite direction. We put our effort into returning to normality and avoiding the dreaded sentence of being considered different.

the solution is the noise.

UntitledfddsfMaybe a Facebook post can’t convince you beauty’s skin deep, and maybe a stream of hashtags can’t save the world. Maybe a single fundraiser can’t cure cancer and maybe a peaceful voice can’t really stop a war. But maybe the solution is the noise that it makes, the eyebrows it raises, the questions it asks. You don’t have to have the loudest voice or the deepest pockets to make a difference. You have to be willing to be apart of a greater plan. You have to understand that even if your voice goes unheard, it doesn’t go unnoticed.

patch it with a lie.

Screen shot 2014-09-28 at 1.36.08 AMThey don’t cheat because you’re not enough, they cheat because they aren’t. They don’t have the ability to love you day to night. They don’t have the confidence to see what they want in your eyes. They come and go like a game of catch between water and sand.

You see their lips moving as they patch it with a lie. They blindfold you with love, fault you for the betrayal. We have to stop blaming ourselves for someone elses wrongs. We have to realize we don’t deserve the hurt we’ve been assigned but we deserve the life we get cheated out of when we get cheated on.

you’re human.

Screen shot 2014-09-25 at 9.03.23 PMYour family may fight but it shows that they’re there. Your job may be boring but it means you still have one. Your skin may be flawed but it means that you’ve grown. Your mistakes may be bad but it means that you’re human. Your smile may be temporary but it means there’s still hope. Your life may be hard but it means that you’re living. The fact that you’re living; means you’ve done something right.

no second chances.

Screen shot 2014-09-27 at 12.44.47 AMEventually we run out of tomorrows. No do overs, no second chances, we die as who we are and what we have. Our legacy is our failures and the dignity we lose in our final moments unless we leave this world with something better then what we take with us. We can’t keep wasting minutes of an already short life. We can’t keep watching chances get lost in time.

bravery.

Screen shot 2014-09-28 at 2.33.20 AMBravery is jumping off the mountain you built, crossing the line you drew, fixing the bridges you burned. It’s saying yes when a million voices scream no. Bravery is accepting that there are things beyond your control. It’s asking for help but walking alone. It’s touching the flame no matter the burn. Bravery is chasing dreams. It’s picking up the pieces. It’s learning from being without. How simple things could be if they never happened, but bravery is understanding why they did.

no intention to love back.

Screen shot 2014-09-25 at 9.30.23 PMSometimes it’s easier to miss someone then to love them. To close the door instead of let them in. The idea of how things could be substitutes the effort of actually making it happen. In the end, some people cross paths to teach lessons, to change one another, to simply take up time.

If we refuse to give our time to someone so willing to accept it, they have taught us all we need and we have to be fair in releasing their hand, and watching them go. There’s convenience to limbo, to the back burner, to I might miss you if you leave but there’s no reason to accept love, with no intention to love back.