We’re forced to compare ourselves to the glamorized lives of social media when really, we need the truth. We need to believe in the struggles that lead to triumph. The sense of confusion we can find in others, and the misguided path that leads us through life. We need to address the truth behind the twenties. The things we overcome,  the perspectives we gain, and the inner daemons we’re forced to face.

Be apart of the journey to raise awareness about the stigma of a less than perfect mind.

I’m a twenty-three year old girl, writing about the struggles of my love life, self-discovery and bottomless mind. This blog is for the times your inner voice becomes unbearable. When no one understands what you’re going through and no one tries. A blog for the times you search chat rooms and books, desperate to find reassurance that you’re not alone. The times you’ve shared your deepest, loneliest feelings and no one took your hand, and said me too.

Sometimes our families don’t understand, our friends don’t have time and our voice shakes too much to turn thoughts into words. We try to make sense of the world while we try to make sense of ourselves and that’s an impossible thing to do alone.

322 thoughts on “About”

  1. Thank goodness you started the road to self-discovery early!!! In my twenties I had some reflections, but was not nearly bold enough to actually write about it and share it with the world! Not until my late 20’s anyway… You are doing a great job here! Keep expressing, keep putting your heart into your writing, and that book that you want to write – it’s coming. You are building the steps to it right now! Good luck and blessings in all that you do!

    1. It’s been a crazy (but rewarding) journey that’s for sure! It can be weird putting all these thoughts online but it’s gotten more comfortable. Thank you for taking the time to leave that comment. It’s always nice to hear extra encouragement. I hope I’ll hear from you again.

    1. Although the twenties are turning out to be not all that bad, I’m interested in seeing what the thirties will one day have to offer. Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad you could relate :)

  2. OMG!! I’ve fallen in love with your blog…with the thoughts that you have expressed. Everything Im feeling…as if you’ve reading my journals but just placing everything perfectly in words on your blog. I am truly in love!!!

    1. Thank you so much! That was an amazing – and encouraging – comment to read. It’s given me a lot of closure to find people who can relate so I hope reading my blog can give the same to you. I hope to hear from you on future posts.

  3. It takes courage to tread on the path of self-discovery,I am in my twenties and know that refraining oneself from delusions is difficult,but once you put your foot down many blurred aspects become clear. Best of luck .Thank you for liking my post. I am looking forward to hear from you. :)

    1. “Refraining oneself from delusions” I absolutely love this! It speaks so much truth. Thank you for sharing such a positive message. It’s comforting to find others in their twenties who are finding their own ways to make it through these confusing years. Best of luck on your own journey but I hope to hear from you again!

  4. A truly inspirational blog. I have spent a while reading some of your posts. I hope you continue on your path of self-discovery. I have found that the more you find out the more there is to find out. There should be no upper age limit on self-discovery – I am still striving to know more and understand more and I am 56 years old. There will always be challenges but with an open mind, a willingness to learn and with a little self-knowledge those challenges are not insurmountable. All this will help you in understanding others too. Thank-you so much for visiting my blog and liking my post.

  5. You are very brave to blog about your inner thoughts. It is not always an easy thing to do, but I fully believe that communicating those thoughts to others is an important process. I have suffered through bouts of depression, anxiety, and definitely stress by not having anyone I can really talk to, but I didn’t even realize that there was something wrong with me until I met that person that I could share these thoughts with. Now, I realize that I was merely a shadow of my true self until I started to let my inner thoughts and feelings out. I am glad you decided to like one of my posts on my blog otherwise I never would have discovered yours. Keep up the great work for it will not only help you, but it will help others too.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your own story! Suffering in silence truly seems like the worst thing a person could do and I think that’s why art is such a dominant and important aspect of life. We have to turn the chaos of our mind into something that makes the suffering have worth. Again, I thank you for sharing and I hope you’ve found your blog to be a great way to help yourself and others as well :)

  6. I cannot wait to delve into your blog. Thank you for stopping by mine & taking the time to read. You are amazing and brave to put it all out there. Know that you have already helped someone just by sharing yourself.

    1. Than you so much for checking out my blog and taking the time to comment. You are brave as well for sharing your writing with everyone! Keep up the great work and thank you so much for the support.

  7. Oh my Gosh, I love your blog. I’m also 23 and I can totally relate.

    I still feel like I have more questions about life than answers to be honest. Keep doing what you are doing.

  8. As a parent and grandparent I would say to you that you are never alone, and what you go through has been gone through by millions of others. Each person must make the journey of self discovery and although finding others currently going through what you are going through somehow gives you validation, but too many times those other people don’t have the answers either. Find a person you can embrace and trust, whether a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle, and listen to how they made their way through the gauntlet of young adulthood. God Bless.

    1. Thank you! That is a very encouraging comment to read so I appreciate you taking the time to share it. I have found many people who have helped me through hard times and I admire all of them for their perspective on the world. I’m happy to have found my own way and now, I hope I can help others to find their own. Thank you again, I hope to hear from you on future posts :)

    1. Thank you so much! I’m completely set on the idea that things will be fine, I just hope my experiences can help others to feel the same. I appreciate you sharing such a positive message.

  9. Every decade has something amazing to offer. Enjoy your 20’s and do as much self discovery as your mind will allow. I’m in my 40’s and am, only now, appreciating and owning all of the things I learned in my 20’s and 30’s. In other words – you have lots of good stuff to look forward to :)

    1. That’s definitely something I’ve learned but that’s a great way to put it, “Every decade has something amazing to offer.” Three years into my twenties, I’ll admit I’m finally a lot more excited for my future. Thank you so much for the positive message :)

    1. It’s interesting to hear how much of an impact the twenties have made on people looking back on it. That acts as a constant reminder to make the most of it. I appreciate you sharing – thank you!

  10. Wow! You made me think: I should copy & paste this for my own blog, I sympathize with every word!! Glad I found your blog. Best wishes, Ayeh.

    1. My favourite thing to hear is that one of my posts or pieces of writing could make someone think further into themselves and life. It’s also amazing to see how many of us have similar stories. For that, I appreciate sharing :)

    1. I am truly so fortunate to have found something as healing as this blog. I hope I can inspire others to find a way to deal with their emotions and like I’ve written in a post, ‘to tell their tragedy’. Thank you so much for the positive words!

  11. “Life” is the process of living and each decade has its A-ha moments as well as its trials. I am in my 40’s now and thought I had it all together in my 20’s. I suspect that I will look back when I am in my 50’s and chuckle at my 40-year old self, although I am no longer fooled that I have it all together. We are not supposed, for what fun would that be?Take some time to pepper in some fun and silliness while you embark on the serious business to discover your purpose. Your 20’s have a purpose and a lightness to them too!

    1. Hi Aaryne! Thank you for taking the time to comment. It sounds like every decade has challenged you but been a great adventure to get to where you are now. I appreciate you sharing as being twenty-three, it’s important to appreciate the now.

  12. I so remember my twenties being years of much angst as I was just beginning to dip my toe into the water of life. It does get better and as you walk the road to self-discovery you begin to understand that you will get through the rough patches and come out the other end perhaps a little wounded, but also having found more inner strength than you thought you had. This journey never ends until the day you take your last breath, but the wisdom acquired along the way makes it so worth the ride! Hang on, enjoy, never let fear hold you back and know, truly know, that you are never alone. Namaste.

    1. The road to self-discovery has been a bittersweet time right now! I’ve learned so much and to be honest, I’m excited to see what’s next. I appreciate you taking the time to read my work and sharing such a positive message. Thank you!

  13. I’m fortunate to have a medium to express myself in my 20’s. I completely relate to you. Thank goodness for blogs. I would have been frying in my own thoughts and discoveries. Your blog is beautiful!!

    1. I think that’s the main goal of being in our twenties. It’s not always writing (or even a form of art), but we need to find a way to put our thoughts into something non-toxic and find a way to organize the chaos. Thank you so much for taking the time to visit my blog. I hope I’ll hear from you on future posts :)

    1. I truly appreciate you taking the time to say that. I’m not one to put my emotions and thoughts out there but blogging has really helped so I love to hear that I can help others – at least in the smallest way. I hope to hear from you again!

  14. My brain sometimes works faster than my mouth and by the time i get the words to my lips people are on to something else. I hope you get to read some of my posts they are similar in that we speak of not having a voice and the frustrations of brain injuries/mental health and their invisibility

    1. I hope you’ve found writing as a way to ‘catch up’ and finally be able to say what you want. I used blogging to find my voice and as a result, I feel like I’ve gotten the chance to say everything I want. I will be sure to check out your blog! Thank you for sharing it with me and thank you for sharing it with your readers :)

  15. I like to be truthful too and like lists which I have many of. My encyclopedic evergreen truth blogs are rather dry with little emotional appeal but crammed with factual information. Search by keyword such as love, dating, marriage, parenting, empathy, etc. which you would not do with other limited blogs. With 1200 blogs so far on most important topics you can learn about life and more from the wisdom and life accumulated knowledge of a 68 year old. Best wishes. Uldis

    1. It sounds like you’ve got a great past of writing and expressing your thoughts to your audience. Thank you so much for taking the time to check out my blog and sharing that about yourself!

  16. just read your about section and am most definitely a follower :) i just started my blog a week ago, am loving it. i’m 26 next week and have been on a path of self discovery for the past few years – at your age, 23, i left home (south africa) to go on a pilgrimage by myself to peru because i had so many questions that needed answering. when i came home nearly two years later i returned a different person – the most important thing that i learned was to love one self completely. just as we are :) will be writing about the journey soon. anyways, thanks for the like. will be reading your posts! blessings x

    1. I’m so glad to have you as a subscriber – thank you! You sound like you were far more independent than I am and it sounds as though it’s given you an amazing perspective on life. I appreciate you sharing! I hope to hear more from you on future posts :)

      1. I wasn’t independent at all to be honest, but that’s exactly why I had to go! I was a co-dependent and shy – and going through a quarter life crisis of ‘what the hell am I meant to do with my life?’ haha – but to face one’s fear head on is the most amazing way to heal! So even though I cried my whole way to the airport cos I was so scared – it was life changing :) Anyways – we each have our own journeys to walk – as long as we are following our hearts we are on the right track! Happy you have found an outlet to share xx

    2. This is very inspiring too and great you’ve started a blog! Writing really does do wonders for confidence and self esteem.
      Do share your link once you are ready to!

      I write The Signorina (www.thesignorina.com)

      Nice to meet you!

  17. Most interesting. I wish you well in your journey. At 23 I was on active duty and an NCO (low level) which forced responsibility on me. For some people that is the path to adulthood and for others it burns them out and those need to find another path. I learned that great responsibility was not for me and the Air Force kept pushing me into it to my detriment. There are many paths out there, search and find the one that is yours.

    And lest you get the wrong idea, I loved my time in the Air Force, and I loved what I was doing. But I found that my abilities did not match the responsibilities being a higher-level NCO required.

    1. It sounds like you were living a very different, but such an incredible lifestyle at twenty-three. You sound like you were left with a strong attidude and a fearless perspective. That’s admirable. I think a great lesson to learn is that what’s right for someone, isn’t right for everyone else. Thank you so much for sharing your story. If you don’t mind me asking, if the Air Force wasn’t for you, have you since found what is?

      1. I wasn’t clear it seems. The Air Force was for me, I am a retired NCO (TSgt) of moderately high rank. What I said about great responsibility not being for me means that above a certain level I was out of my depth, the Peter Principle. What I was trying to say is that forcing someone to accept responsibility early on will work for some but not others. As of now I am completely retired and am a Postulant with the Community of Solitude.

  18. Kind of sounds like what I’m going through. 22 and I am thinking a lot about life, love, future, past, family, friends. It never ends :) Life is difficult , but life is beautiful ~

    1. It seems to be true, you have to see the dark to appreciate the light. I’m so glad you can relate. I agree life is beautiful and I’m so excited we’ve found that out at such an age that will allow us to appreciate the years to come. Thank you for sharing :)

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