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Cory---Topanga-cory-and-topanga-564146_307_2101. Boy Meets World. Boy Meets World taught us that although the world is in front of you, it’s not always within your reach. Growing up is about the obstacles, painful lessons and countless up and down’s that will one day help you find your place in the world. Life is a crazy place to navigate without the people who will get you through, proving that love and friendship can endure anything. Your path is paved by the things that scare you, work against you, challenge you. Maybe you’ll never know who you are, or the place you fit in the world. But as long as you do good, you’ll do great.

2. Sabrina The Teenage Witch. Sabrina taught us the honest hardships of being a teenager. There is a sense of freedom that comes with not caring about what others think and although the sincere smiles are as equal as the heartbreaking frowns, to know every emotion means you know every way to get through. Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to appreciate who you really are, but find the people who do and never let them go. Find your mistakes and make them right. Find your flaws and make them shine. Find your path and make it happen.

3. Saved By The Bell.  Saved By The Bell never held back in teaching us the power of friendship. Growing up is hard and regardless of the pain relationships can cause, life would be a lot lonelier without them. Look at your friends, whether they’re short, tall, male, female, a dork, a jock, a trouble maker. Someone’s exterior will never change who they are inside and how they feel about you. Friendship is about diversity and breaking limits. Let others make judgment. Let them guess who you are. Only your true friends will know and only your true friends will care enough to find out.

4. Lizzie McGuire. Lizzie McGuire taught us the unhappiness that comes with living life, pretending to be someone you’re not. Embrace your flaws and the people who accept them. Believe in yourself and the strength of your voice. Lizzie McGuire taught us that growing up is inevitable but life is about the day you finally understand. You’ll understand why friendships were broken, why relationships failed, why your parents were strict. You’ll laugh at the pointless fights you fought, the awkward things you said, the times gravity worked against you. One day you’ll understand that the things that happened to you; aren’t what make you, you.

5. Full House. Full House taught us that family is beyond a mom and dad. There is love in different households that we have only now began to accept. Unconventional doesn’t mean broken just like blood doesn’t imply a bond. Full House taught us that relationships are about sacrifice but in return you will go to bed, with your heart filled with happiness. You’ll close your eyes knowing tomorrow you can once again endure that madness, that makes it worth it.

technically over technology.

There’s no denying the speed the worlds turning and the way life’s changing. Technology is taking over and destroying the little things as it goes. We’re nostalgic for the things that are now only a memory. We let a smile escape across our lips at the very thought of the things we once took for granted.

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1. Film Cameras. Cameras once refused to let you live behind the lens. You weren’t able to fill your camera roll with pictures that will one day be as lost as your phone on a sticky bar floor. A single snap is no longer enough. You need angles, poses, unnatural moments. You will never know the life that’s lost between reality and your phone screen.

2. Renting a Movie. Wandering amongst the high shelves of Blockbuster was a Friday night on it’s own. Pointing at movie covers and laughing at the times you saw it with friends or shaking your head at your once celebrity crush. We’ve lost adventure to convenience and the sound of laughter to hollow clicks.

3. Desktop Computers. It was sneaking downstairs at midnight as your family laid fast asleep. You turned on the computer and cringed as the start up sound echoed through the house. Your bed was empty, your heart was racing. You couldn’t pull a computer on your lap, or check your favourite sites on your phone. You had to sneak back into bed a few hours later, smirking at your midnight adventure.

4. MSN. There once was a time you could escape the madness of the world outside of your home. You could leave the drama, the stories, the gossip as words behind the computer screen, waiting for you to come back. Text messages have become haunting. Leaving us unable to run without the promise of being chased.

5. Calendars. There used to be one benefit in starting a new year of school which was, a brand new agenda. Fresh sheets waiting to be personalized. Marking the doodles from class boredom. Hearts filled with monthly crushes. Personalized script reminding of weekend plans. Pages ripped out to pass to friends in class. The older we get, the clearer we can see that paper tells a better story then letters on a screen ever will.

parents say the darndest things.

We spent years convinced that our parents spoke their own language and lived in their own world. We refused to believe that the  phrases they told us anything other then a far fetch attempt to prove us wrong. Adulthood comes with a lot of realization, meaning we finally learn the reality of our parents once irritating sayings. They were telling the truth, they were simply being honest.

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1. Don’t cry over spilt milk. There are a lot of things in life to worry about, a lot of things that can keep you up at night. We will never experience sanity if we dwell on the small stuff, the fixable problems, the puddle of milk that needs nothing more then a paper towel to clean up.

2. Money doesn’t grow on trees.  We always laughed, commenting with our literal interpretation of this saying. Maybe now we’ll realize the importance of appreciating the value of a dollar. Understanding that our reward is no longer a pat on the back. Our reward must be worked for, in order to survive. There’s a lot of character in those who realize that money has more value then the paper it’s made from.

3. We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. No one knows what tomorrow has to offer. We love mystery and we love to dwell on the unknown, leaving us clueless about right now. We have to stop thinking ahead, and rushing through life. Every path leads to another so keep one foot ahead of the other, and savour the dirt beneath each one.

4. Pretty is as pretty does. Possibly the hardest truth to understand (and some of us never will) is that beauty is truly skin deep. Our parents saw us at our essence. They saw the smiles we let slip through our lips, the excitement in our eyes when we saw something we liked, the kind words we told others that we couldn’t even tell ourselves. Pretty isn’t a look, it’s an outlook.

5. If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you jump off a bridge? Peer pressure comes in ways we never imagined. It’s more then a joint in front of our face or a tempting text to sneak out, and as we get older, we learn how true this is. We live in comparison. Always looking at someone else’s life, always wanting what we don’t have. As we grow up, society seems to become the friend we’re willing to jump off the bridge for. It’s a matter of time before we learn that doing so, leaves us no more then wet, cold and once again, alone.

duck, duck, lose.

Little did we know growing up, that our school yard games were preparing us for the honest truth about life. Ignorance is bliss and the games that once made us smile and laugh, are now the rules we love to break and the games we dread playing.

BWExtra3_Mika-1_s1. Telephone. Telephone reveals the truth about the corruption in our communication system. There’s more entertainment in making assumptions and twisting the truth to the point where it tells a different story. We know the truth is somewhere out there, but we accept whatever we’re given in it’s place. There’s only so many times you can say ‘operator’ before you’re forced to shrug, laugh, and believe what you think you heard.

2. Simon Says. We’ve grown up, taught to obey authority. Promised that once we’re adults, we’ll be introduced to freedom. Simon Says tells us the importance in listening to a ‘higher power’. If someone says jump, you say how high, and you fall victim to the punishment if you chose to disobey. Don’t step out of line, don’t dance to your own beat and don’t think these rules ever stop applying.

3. Three-Legged Race. We think the finish line is within our reach, that the strength of our legs is enough to carry us to success. We don’t understand that we’re not in this game alone. Life’s a three-legged race. We can’t win without help. We can’t win without teamwork. It’s a lot harder to work against life then with it.

4. Red Rover. Red Rover taught us the instant betrayal that comes when picking sides. We had seconds to decide if we would break the rules and run lightly, in hopes to return to our team or we’d aim for the weak in hopes to carry out our plan. There’s irony in being called over by a group working to keep you out.

5. Duck, Duck, Goose. We were once told we’re all equals, we’re cut from the same cloth. However, when someone is pointed out as different, we’re taught to run in the opposite direction. We put our effort into returning to normality and avoiding the dreaded sentence of being considered different.

we’re taught to fear, fear.

So many things in life are labeled strange, abnormal or scary. Would we look at things the way we do if society hadn’t marked them? Or are our fears just our mental insecurities, manifesting themselves into things we consider acceptable?

avril-lavigne-black-and-white-dress-forest-girl-favim-com-3014321. Ghosts. We are powerless to ghosts. We breathe easier knowing we’re in the safety of our own home. Confined within walls, behind a deadbolt, with 9-1-1 on speed dial. Ghosts take that security and leave us helpless. To be in the presence of a ghost is the all too familiar feeling of being trapped within ourselves, with nowhere to run and nowhere to hide.

2. Spiders.  Although many spiders hold less danger then a bear, we hold a stronger sense of resentment. We fear the unknown and we hate the idea of living amongst something so different then us. It’s not surprising that we hate spiders, as we’re guilty of looking at everyone ‘different’ then us as though they have eight legs.

3. Needles. We hate sitting in the doctor’s office. Tapping our foot and waiting for a nurse to register our flu shot. Just before the needle goes in, we grow anxious in anticipation. We wait for the sting, knowing it’s coming and knowing it’s not worth the stress. We torture ourselves in the final seconds. We refuse to believe there are things we must simply wait for.

4. Heights. With heights comes trust. We have to trust that we won’t fall, we won’t lose our step and trip, we won’t fall victim to a push. The idea of our fate being out of our control is unacceptable. The idea of making a mistake, a misstep, that ends in more then a scrapped knee is overwhelming. One of our greatest comforts in life is knowing there’s a way to get back up after a fall.

5. Dark. Nothing tightens our breath or sends chills down our spine like the idea of walking through a dark forest, alone. We know it’s full of trees and squirrels, but we know that’s beneath the sunlight. The night is a different story. The night is dark, and quiet, and unknown. We hate to lose our step, we hate to trust that there’s nothing following us and we hate to be lost.

don’t judge a mind by it’s cover.

Mental health isn’t a trend. It isn’t a group on Facebook or a card to play for pity. Mental health is a backpack you can’t take off, carrying the weight of your past and the burden of your thoughts. It’s a loss of control, the truth behind your mask. It’s your head in your hands and ringing in your ears. So, don’t say you’re sorry; say you understand. Don’t say statistics; say you cry too. Don’t say this world is hard; say it’s possible to survive.

tumblr_kws0p7J0XH1qzs56do1_5001. Depression. Depression isn’t suicidal. It doesn’t paint purple bags beneath your eyes or leave your wrists scared with self-loath. There’s no rain cloud over your head or an all black dress code. You don’t spend your days choking on tears with makeup stained cheeks. Depression isn’t an Instagram caption, proclaiming sadness about a broken heel and it isn’t an opportunity to incorporate self-pity into casual conversation. Depression isn’t robotic. You can still express a genuine smile; you just may cherish it more.

2. Bi Polar. Bi Polar is not crazy. It’s not a mental slide, ascending from bliss to insanity in a matter of minutes. It isn’t an anticipated breakdown from a cartoon fire burning in your eyes or bellows of smoke rising from your head. Your conversations don’t play out like mad libs and your tainted thoughts don’t stray from common sense. Bi Polar isn’t the light switch of someone fiddling after a sudden outage. It doesn’t symbolize weakness and it doesn’t symbolize loss of control. Bi Polar is a mental spectrum; it’s a hypothetical thermometer, an unexplainable curse. The good days are good, the bad days are bad and the ‘normal’ days are few and far between.

3. Insomnia. Insomnia isn’t a late night movie marathon. It isn’t a missed curfew or a restless sleep, welcoming Monday morning.  It’s a racing mind, a stream of thoughts, a distorted reality. It’s a desperation for sleeping pills, therapy, or a bedtime companion. Insomnia is a battle between your mind. A battle to close your eyes, rest your thoughts, and end the day with peace behind you.

 4. Anorexia. Anorexia is not a missed meal, a number on the scale, a mentality you choose to obey. It isn’t a distorted mirror, it’s a distorted perspective, a lying society. Anorexia is never good, never pretty, never the best. It’s words that work against you, opinions that make you weak. It’s the thought of thin and fat, clinging to your mind, to the food in front of you, to the person you want to be.

5. OCD. OCD is the dissection of your life, the aroma of hand sanitizer, the relationship with perfection. It’s the fear of wrong. Wrong placement, wrong timing, wrong outcome. It’s a tidy chaos, a disguised flaw. It’s the compulsion that things could be cleaner, better, different.  It’s said to be admirable. People compliment your matching decor, your spotless tabletops, your alphabetical DVD collection. Rarely do they look beyond it. Rarely do they see external cleanliness compensating for an internal disaster. True OCD is using physical items, the things you have most control over, as an anchor for when things in your mind and things in your life, go so awry.

happily ever after will follow.

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1. Peter Pan taught us to let go of our pasts and the familiar we’ve lived to know. It taught us the gain in growing up and growing vulnerable. There’s beauty in the future as long as we keep the beauty of our past.

2. Lion King reminded us of the disappointment that comes from the battle against fate. You can’t change who you are, so be the best you can be. Be brave, be prepared, be strong enough to face the life you’ve been given.

3. Bambi told us that life is love, loss, and a world that keeps turning, even in our darkest times. We’re not exceptions; we’re together in life, standing on a thin piece of ice, but like Bambi’s wobbly legs can stand, so can you. Just as the seasons promise, a new spring will come.

4. Toy Story confessed, there’s a power in numbers we hate to accept. We’re stubborn and close-minded and proud to be alone. But, one day someone will enter your life and when they help you carry your baggage, you’ll never realize how heavy it was until they put it down. Find the strength you’ve always needed in someone else and you’ll never again feel weak.

5. Alice in Wonderland says, we are who we believe we are and we are what we think we’re capable of. Embrace your flaws, your madness, your confusion. Hold an opinion and hold your own for we live in a world aching to change us. Embrace who you are, not who you will one day be. Life is a single step. Get lost, fall down, be late. Stop running.

 You have to live and the happily ever after will follow.

old habits die, eventually.

Addiction isn’t just a skinny body, withering away in a back ally. It isn’t a collection of needles and pages of debt. Addiction is an unhealthy habit that affects you physically and/or mentally. Whether it’s to drugs and alcohol, food, people or even a negative mentality, here are five ways to end a bad habit.

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1. End Temptation. If it’s in eyesight or easily accessible, there’s a really good chance convenience will overtake will power. Clear your living space of all links to your habit, all reminders and delete the necessary numbers.

Temptation can also come from boredom so, keep yourself distracted. If you focus on positive thoughts and activities, you won’t have time to think about falling back into your toxic routine.

2. Find The Triggers. We have triggers for everything, be it anxiety, sadness, or temptation. Find what triggers your habit and remove it from your life. Sometimes that means avoiding songs that take you back to a dark place, going to certain places, seeing specific people or even a time of the day. Rearrange your schedule – and essentially your life – to remove as much memory of your past.

3. Substitute. Remove the bad and add in the good. Try exercising, eating instead of smoking, hanging out with positive people as opposed to negative ones or find an art form to help you convey your emotions when you find yourself stressed or tempted. Analyze your bad habit and realize how much of your day and overall thought process it consumes, then make a plan to fill that empty space before actually attempting it.

4. Change your mindset. If you’re not confident you can beat your habit, there’s a very good chance you can’t. You know you’re more capable then your report card reveals and more accomplished then the impossible level of Angry Birds insists. Keep in mind the famous quote by Henry Ford, whether you think you can or you can’t – you’re right. Visualize your success, use a positive language and you will be able to achieve your goal.

5. Say a Proper Goodbye. People aren’t unrealistic. They know how challenging it is to quit something cold turkey, so don’t expect this of yourself. Set a day you want to be clean by and start a gradual fade out. Take the time to say a proper goodbye. Send a letter or write one, without sending it. Have a bonfire to burn haunting memories or even go on vacation. This will allow you to draw a clear line of your life before and your life after.

put sleepless nights to rest.

Sleep has so much control over the well being of our lives, but not enough people remember the last time they got a night of flawless slumber. The Internet is full of suggestions and ideas for those desperate to get a few hours of shuteye. Here are some  for when those ones don’t work.

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1. Atmosphere. Find the atmosphere you like sleeping in. Some people like it cold, some people like hot, some people like the noise of a fan in the background, the list goes on. Try out different combinations and find the temperature and soundsthat enhance your sleep condition.

2. Analyze Your Mind. Too many people think relaxation is the key to a good night’s sleep but, if your mind can’t stop racing, don’t lie still and hope you’ll fall into a sleep. Instead, stimulate your mind. Try to count back from 100 by 3’s. This will make your mind work and focus on something other then your thoughts. Even if your mind wanders, bring it back to the task at hand.

3. Quality of Your Bed. We all want our bed to be equivalent to a cloud, yet sleep hygiene is something we often ignore. Wash your sheets regularly, change your pillows once they lose their support and occasionally flip your mattress if required.

4. A Date With Sleep. Pamper yourself and really prepare your body and mind for a goodnight sleep. Have a bath prior using lavender soap. Set flameless candles around your bedroom, play soft music, turn off the light and carry your relaxed state of mind into a nightlong slumber.

5. Empty Your Mind. Find a planner that works best for you. Find one with a month view, a week view and lines to write additional work.  Before going to bed, fill in your schedule accordingly and make to do lists for the following day or week. Create a grocery list if required and essentially clear your mind of all things that could keep you up at night.

stop stressing over stress.

Panic and anxiety can seem almost impossible to explain to others. There are only so many times we can hear just breathe; calm down or it’s not that bad. Anxiety can numb your body and mind, making simple day-to-day tasks a challenge. Here are some suggestions to cope.

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1. Write Things Down. Panic and anxiety can often be trigged by the feeling of being overwhelmed. Write a to-do list or keep a journal of your thoughts to clear your mind and give yourself the opportunity to see them in a controlled, visual perspective. Tip: take advantage of your smartphone and use the notes and checklist app for on-the-go organization.

2. Talk To Someone. Although some people like writing down the madness in their head, others like expressing it to someone willing to listen. As long as you trust that person with your thoughts, holding a conversation can really help you to relax and figure things out just by hearing them said out loud.

If you really struggle with anxiety and feel as though you’re drowning in a sea of worries, seek professional help. It can really make a difference having the opportunity to talk to a non-judgmental, third party. Professional Therapists can teach you coping skills, adjust your mentality and help you overcome your most burdening thoughts.

3. Sweat.Finding a workout that works for you can be a very productive way of releasing your inner stress. If you can’t escape your mind while running on a treadmill, find something else like a gym class, yoga, a scenic bike ride etc. Feeling better about your body will also reflect on the strength of your mind.

Remember, a healthy diet, is always alongside a good workout routine.

4. Excite Your Senses. Never underestimate the power of a smell, taste or soft touch. Decide what works best for you, whether it’s a seasonal candle, secret stash of Oreo cookies or an embarrassing pair of flannel pajamas. It’s important to excite our senses and feel a calming effect as a result.

Having something relaxing to look forward to will help get you through a stressful time. In addition to exciting your senses, excite your mind. Whether it’s a puzzle, a good book or a one-on-one with the family pet, having something that gives gratification, is crucial in everyone’s life.

5. Make ‘You’ Time. Meditation and deep breathing is said to be a very effective way to eliminate anxiety. However, if you’re not interested in learning those methods, there are still ways to make a positive use of ‘you’ time. Designate a few minutes (either in the morning at night) and sit with your eyes closed. Listen to music that makes you happy or simply sit in silence and go over your thoughts. Ensure that all thoughts are positive and reflect on the day you will have or the day you had. Creating a positive mindset will make an undeniable impact on how you see the world.