10 reasons why growing up isn’t that bad.

Screen shot 2014-09-01 at 1.02.05 AM1. We may still shift our eyes as we wander the isles, fight our shaky hands as we hand over our I.D and get in and out as fast as we can, but we’re legal and allowed to buy alcohol. No older siblings, no watered down vodka, just the ability to make our own adult decisions.

2. Suddenly you don’t care if you miss a party, full of all too farmiliar faces from high school. You don’t care if you’re spotted at the grocery store with sweatpants and a naked face. You don’t care what other people think. You know what makes you happy and that’s all that matters.

3. Gone are the days when you can’t eat dessert if you don’t eat your vegetables. You can eat cold pizza for breakfast and alternate between salad and cake. You’ll learn the importance of eating healthy, but you’ll learn the thrill in knowing you don’t have to.

4. You can buy the shirt you’ve had your eye on, go to the beach with your friends, and you don’t have to spend the hour prior, begging your parents for money. You have a wallet, money, credit cards and control of how you use it. You have bills to pay but there’s time to do that after you do what you want.

5. Those years you spent asking your parents for a pet. Dragging a stuffed animal on the ground, reciting the responsibility you know it would be, just for your pleas to be ignored. Fortunately, if you live on your own and have the time and money, you can go to the pound today and go find a dog. Bonus: your pet – your rules!

6. Chores are inevitable but growing up means finding a way to make them survivable. Laundry, vacuuming and dishes are all a little more fun when you have a glass of wine by your side.

7. Mornings no longer start with a glass of orange juice. You can now close your eyes, take a deep breath and sip on a warm cup of coffee or tea. You will finally understand what got your parents and teachers through the days when you were younger.

8. Your body no longer wants to stay up until three a.m. and sleep in until two. Surprisingly, you’ll be amazed how much free time you have when you’re up hours before lunch.

9. Aside from missing out on back to school shopping, running into friends in the hallways, graduating High School and furthermore College, means no more algebra, last minute study sessions or the pain that is group projects. You’ll face a whole new collection of problems with a real world job, but it’s nice to live your life without a bell.

10. Your parents start to look different when they no longer lecture you about your curfew, grades or cleaning your room. In fact, you’ll want to tell them about your life, visit them when you’re bored and call them just to hear their voice. You’ll understand their unconditional love is something you can never replace.

future without flaw.

Screen shot 2014-08-17 at 10.41.41 PMI’m everything you want, even everything you need. We fit into each others lives, into each others arm’s, into the empty space of our bed’s. How can you not want something, so fairytale meant to be? How can you not want you guys are perfect, smiles? How can you not want me?

I’m not the girl you fall in love with. I’m not the girl who gets flowers to her door. We’re not perfection, but I can promise we’re worth the fight. I can promise a future of certainty, not searching, because to me, we make so much sense. It’s a shame love doesn’t.

10 things to remember when blogging.

Screen shot 2014-08-18 at 10.20.34 PM1. Consistency. If you’re looking for any success to come from your blog, remain consistent. You don’t have to blog every day, but two – three times a week (or even once a week) will give reassurance to your readers that they have something to look forward too regularly.

2. Content. Writing your blog in the form of a diary makes it hard for others to relate. Tell your story in a way that others can put themselves in your shoes or compare what you’re saying to their own lives. This may include limiting use of names and locations or discussing feelings as opposed to events.

3. Branding. Consider your blog a brand or even a company. Create a catchy title, slogan, logo, personalized email and use your voice as the brand identity. You can create an anonymous blog but still, give the readers a sense of organization they can become comfortable with.

  • Try to chose a blog name that people can spell and remember. Therefore, it’s easier for them to type it into the search bar if they’re not able to access their WordPress account and there’s more chances they’ll tell their friends or family about it in conversation.

4. Interact. Growing a blog is irrelevant if you’re not going to interact with people in the ‘community’. A benefit to blogging is having the privilege to hear other people’s insight on topics you’re interested in. Comment on others blogs, respond to those who comment on yours, do guest blogs and if the opportunity arises, engage in email conversations.

5. Clean. Keep your blog clean and simple as the rule, less is more, has never been more true. Only have the share buttons that people will realistically use. Have a solid background colour so the words can be easier to read and don’t fill your page with every widget you come across. This will make your page harder to maneuver around and your work will become lost in the mess.

  • Putting links into text such as,  ‘Click: Here’ looks a lot more appealing to the eye then including the entire ‘www’ address. Learn how to do so in the visual page edit screen.

6. Social Media. It’s almost impossible to have one successful social media account without the help of another. However, don’t sign up for every account at once. You will overwhelm yourself and your work will be mediocre, not outstanding. Start with one account (Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram) and link it to your blog so that posts are immediately updated and can be found by another audience.

7. Length. We live in a society with shortened attention spans. We’re used to the length of a Facebook status or the quick skimming of a Twitter feed. Write posts long enough to say what you want but try to restrain from rambling on and on at the risk of losing your readers attention. Turn long posts into two short ones instead, if possible.

8. About. I’ve come across countless blogs that don’t include an ‘About Me’ page. I consider this unfortunate as it is always the first thing I look for. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate summary of your past or details down to your house address, but give your readers a general idea of who is writing these posts. It will really help them to connect and better understand you as a person.

9. Content. This can’t be stressed enough, write what you know. There seems to be a glamourized perception on being a ‘beauty guru’ that makes writing about anything else, seem unacceptable. If you don’t want to write about makeup and DIY’s, then write about mental health, animals, love & loss, being a sad and confused teenager. Write about something you can put your heart and soul into and you’ll be reward with the ability to impact someone’s life.

10. Theme. Just because it’s a theme available on WordPress, doesn’t mean it works for the content you’re trying to convey or the audience you’re hoping to address. Finding a theme that works for you is a frustrating session of trial and error. If your blog revolves around pictures, find an appropriate theme just as you should if your blog is mostly writing. Your readers want accessibility which unfortunately, can’t always be found.

10 things I wish I knew before college.

When you walk through the doors on your first day of College, don’t be mislead. Don’t think you’re the only one with a colour-coordinated map of your classes, stashed in your pocket. Don’t think you’re the only one on the phone with your childhood friends, giggling about the ‘college boys’ you’re walking amongst. And most importantly, don’t think you’re the only one lost, confused, and so far from your normal.

Screen shot 2014-08-17 at 1.54.46 PM1. There is a way to balance school and a social life and yes, sometimes it will mean staying in on a Friday night or sleeping in through an 8 a.m. class.

2. There is nothing more scary yet exciting then the freedom that is college. It’s easy to get overwhelmed but a few phone calls home will always keep you grounded.

3. Leaving High School doesn’t mean leaving the ‘popular kids’ and in class cliques. It should however mean you’ve found peace with who you are and where you fit in.

4. It’ll cost more money to pursue a degree you don’t want then to drop out and reconsider your path. On a similar note, there’s a stigma in being ‘lazy’ if you take a year off when it could in fact, be exactly what you need.

5. Despite what we’ve been told, College isn’t the time to ‘discover’ yourself. It’s the time to push your limits and experiment with who you are. Chances are, you won’t find clarity until after you graduate.

6. It’ll take more work and will power, but there is a way to beat the freshman fifteen. On the same note, don’t let that stop you from eating Mac N’ Cheese in the common room at three a.m.

7. There will be a day where you look at your pictures from first year and not remember anyone’s name. Fortunately, those whose names you do remember, have the ability to be life long friends if you let them.

8. There is a balance between your home life and college life. It may take some time to figure this out but learning to maintain all relationships will make things easier when you need relief from either life.

9. There’s a stereotype of poor college students that is not entirely false. Spend the summer prior to build a budget that can withstand your school needs and social needs. You’ll eventually learn that textbooks and alcohol seem to be the biggest money grab.

10. Just like High School, you’ll laugh, cry, and countdown the days until you graduate but don’t let these years pass you by. You will never have an experience like College again so enjoy every minute of it.

5 shows that taught us more then we knew.

Screen shot 2014-08-17 at 1.58.13 PM1. Boy Meets World. Boy Meets World taught us that although the world is in front of you, it’s not always within your reach. Growing up is about the obstacles, painful lessons and countless up and down’s that will one day help you find your place in the world. Life is a crazy place to navigate without the people who will get you through, proving that love and friendship can endure anything. Your path is paved by the things that scare you, work against you, challenge you. Maybe you’ll never know who you are, or the place you fit in the world. But as long as you do good, you’ll do great.

2. Sabrina The Teenage Witch. Sabrina taught us the honest hardships of being a teenager. There is a sense of freedom that comes with not caring about what others think and although the sincere smiles are as equal as the heartbreaking frowns, to know every emotion means you know every way to get through. Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to appreciate who you really are, but find the people who do and never let them go. Find your mistakes and make them right. Find your flaws and make them shine. Find your path and make it happen.

3. Saved By The Bell.  Saved By The Bell never held back in teaching us the power of friendship. Growing up is hard and regardless of the pain relationships can cause, life would be a lot lonelier without them. Look at your friends, whether they’re short, tall, male, female, a dork, a jock, a trouble maker. Someone’s exterior will never change who they are inside and how they feel about you. Friendship is about diversity and breaking limits. Let others make judgment. Let them guess who you are. Only your true friends will know and only your true friends will care enough to find out.

4. Lizzie McGuire. Lizzie McGuire taught us the unhappiness that comes with living life, pretending to be someone you’re not. Embrace your flaws and the people who accept them. Believe in yourself and the strength of your voice. Lizzie McGuire taught us that growing up is inevitable but life is about the day you finally understand. You’ll understand why friendships were broken, why relationships failed, why your parents were strict. You’ll laugh at the pointless fights you fought, the awkward things you said, the times gravity worked against you. One day you’ll understand that the things that happened to you; aren’t what make you, you.

5. Full House. Full House taught us that family is beyond a mom and dad. There is love in different households that we have only now began to accept. Unconventional doesn’t mean broken just like blood doesn’t imply a bond. Full House taught us that relationships are about sacrifice but in return you will go to bed, with your heart filled with happiness. You’ll close your eyes knowing tomorrow you can once again endure that madness, that makes it worth it.

the things you hate.

Screen shot 2014-08-25 at 8.50.26 PMYou can’t believe the world can look at you any different then the way your mirror does. Your self-image sits as a devil on your shoulder, whispering critique and hate.

You lay your clothes out the night before, shopping at the same stores they do. You buy extra promising foundation, hoping the haunting remains of your teens will soak into your skin. Your hair won’t grow the way you want it to, your body won’t shape your clothes the way you wish it would. You do everything to hide your imperfections. To erase the things you hate. To battle the impurities you hide behind day after day.

Don’t burden a beautiful mind with ugly thoughts. You’re more then a number on the scale. More then a number of likes on a picture. Be proud to be a paint-by-number and they’ll still look at you like art.

comfort of a plan.

Screen shot 2014-08-25 at 8.51.41 PMMisery is the image in your head of how things should be. It’s the sense of ideal, the comfort of a plan. It steals the freedom of your mind, as there is only so much uncertainty you can live with. The idea of tomorrow hurts, as you live to believe tomorrow isn’t in your favour.

Misery is temporary. It’s destroyed when acknowledged and when it leaves, it leaves acceptance. It leaves you stronger, it leaves you better. And if it doesn’t, try again. Life isn’t a hit or miss. It isn’t a now or never. So accept the way you wish things were then accept the way things are.

their own problems.

Screen shot 2014-08-25 at 8.54.42 PMYou don’t hate life as much as you think you do. You hate that there are people who make it look easy. They tell you not to worry; they tell you everyone has their own problems. Still, you resent the ones who get an extra Friday night with their friends, who celebrated a holiday with more cheer then you, whose Instagram accounts are filled with more smiles then yours. Of course they’ve been sad, and they’ve felt their share of pain but they don’t sacrifice the time you do. It’s not that you want a life without rain; you just want to know you’re not the only one getting wet.

5 small pleasures we lost to technology.

There’s no denying the speed the worlds turning and the way life’s changing. Technology is taking over and destroying the little things as it goes. We’re nostalgic for the things that are now only a memory. We let a smile escape across our lips at the very thought of the things we once took for granted.

Screen shot 2014-08-17 at 2.02.22 PM1. Film Cameras. Cameras once refused to let you live behind the lens. You weren’t able to fill your camera roll with pictures that will one day be as lost as your phone on a sticky bar floor. A single snap is no longer enough. You need angles, poses, unnatural moments. You will never know the life that’s lost between reality and your phone screen.

2. Renting a Movie. Wandering amongst the high shelves of Blockbuster was a Friday night on it’s own. Pointing at movie covers and laughing at the times you saw it with friends or shaking your head at your once celebrity crush. We’ve lost adventure to convenience and the sound of laughter to hollow clicks.

3. Desktop Computers. It was sneaking downstairs at midnight as your family laid fast asleep. You turned on the computer and cringed as the start up sound echoed through the house. Your bed was empty, your heart was racing. You couldn’t pull a computer on your lap, or check your favourite sites on your phone. You had to sneak back into bed a few hours later, smirking at your midnight adventure.

4. MSN. There once was a time you could escape the madness of the world outside of your home. You could leave the drama, the stories, the gossip as words behind the computer screen, waiting for you to come back. Text messages have become haunting. Leaving us unable to run without the promise of being chased.

5. Calendars. There used to be one benefit in starting a new year of school which was, a brand new agenda. Fresh sheets waiting to be personalized. Marking the doodles from class boredom. Hearts filled with monthly crushes. Personalized script reminding of weekend plans. Pages ripped out to pass to friends in class. The older we get, the clearer we can see that paper tells a better story then letters on a screen ever will.

rock bottom.

Screen shot 2014-08-25 at 8.57.47 PMYou’ve built your life on an illusion. You’re the lead of a play, written and directed by you. You’re afraid to leave a roll that gives you purpose, a definition of who you are. You know in the world of nine to five, the cluster of people on the street corner, the stocked shelves of a bookstore, you are jut another somebody and your brain is one of millions. So, one day you’ll wake up without the pain and sorrow and you’ll look for it, because you’ll miss it. You remind yourself to be miserable because you no longer know who you are without it. You sit in the hole you’ve dug for yourself with no memory of the days beneath a blue sky. You’re making a life out of what most consider rock bottom.