silence means forgotten.

It’ll be a simple, straight forward text, what’s up?

My thumb will hover over letters on the keyboard, aching to tell you about my insecurities, my deepest fears. I’ll backspace the lines I wrote, flustered about the things that kept me up at night. I wish I could respond, filling your phone with my failed childhood dreams and my too ambitious goals. I wish I could tell you about the music I play on repeat, the poetry I recite in my mind, the things that make me cry, every time I watch the news.

Instead, our conversations are full of empty words.There’s beauty in silence I wish we could find, but for now, silence means forgotten so I’ll wait for your texts. My stomach will toss and will turn. I’ll take a deep breath and respond, not much, you?

10 things to remember when blogging.

Screen shot 2014-08-18 at 10.20.34 PM1. Consistency. If you’re looking for any success to come from your blog, remain consistent. You don’t have to blog every day, but two – three times a week (or even once a week) will give reassurance to your readers that they have something to look forward too regularly.

2. Content. Writing your blog in the form of a diary makes it hard for others to relate. Tell your story in a way that others can put themselves in your shoes or compare what you’re saying to their own lives. This may include limiting use of names and locations or discussing feelings as opposed to events.

3. Branding. Consider your blog a brand or even a company. Create a catchy title, slogan, logo, personalized email and use your voice as the brand identity. You can create an anonymous blog but still, give the readers a sense of organization they can become comfortable with.

  • Try to chose a blog name that people can spell and remember. Therefore, it’s easier for them to type it into the search bar if they’re not able to access their WordPress account and there’s more chances they’ll tell their friends or family about it in conversation.

4. Interact. Growing a blog is irrelevant if you’re not going to interact with people in the ‘community’. A benefit to blogging is having the privilege to hear other people’s insight on topics you’re interested in. Comment on others blogs, respond to those who comment on yours, do guest blogs and if the opportunity arises, engage in email conversations.

5. Clean. Keep your blog clean and simple as the rule, less is more, has never been more true. Only have the share buttons that people will realistically use. Have a solid background colour so the words can be easier to read and don’t fill your page with every widget you come across. This will make your page harder to maneuver around and your work will become lost in the mess.

  • Putting links into text such as,  ‘Click: Here’ looks a lot more appealing to the eye then including the entire ‘www’ address. Learn how to do so in the visual page edit screen.

6. Social Media. It’s almost impossible to have one successful social media account without the help of another. However, don’t sign up for every account at once. You will overwhelm yourself and your work will be mediocre, not outstanding. Start with one account (Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram) and link it to your blog so that posts are immediately updated and can be found by another audience.

7. Length. We live in a society with shortened attention spans. We’re used to the length of a Facebook status or the quick skimming of a Twitter feed. Write posts long enough to say what you want but try to restrain from rambling on and on at the risk of losing your readers attention. Turn long posts into two short ones instead, if possible.

8. About. I’ve come across countless blogs that don’t include an ‘About Me’ page. I consider this unfortunate as it is always the first thing I look for. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate summary of your past or details down to your house address, but give your readers a general idea of who is writing these posts. It will really help them to connect and better understand you as a person.

9. Content. This can’t be stressed enough, write what you know. There seems to be a glamourized perception on being a ‘beauty guru’ that makes writing about anything else, seem unacceptable. If you don’t want to write about makeup and DIY’s, then write about mental health, animals, love & loss, being a sad and confused teenager. Write about something you can put your heart and soul into and you’ll be reward with the ability to impact someone’s life.

10. Theme. Just because it’s a theme available on WordPress, doesn’t mean it works for the content you’re trying to convey or the audience you’re hoping to address. Finding a theme that works for you is a frustrating session of trial and error. If your blog revolves around pictures, find an appropriate theme just as you should if your blog is mostly writing. Your readers want accessibility which unfortunately, can’t always be found.

about me.

DSC_22101. My name is Jennifer. I am a twenty-three year old girl, living on my own as a post grad. I live in a Lakeshore condo in Toronto, ON with my ten-week-old puppy, Suri.

2. I have been a vegetarian for the past three years after reading the book ‘Eating Animals’, which held nothing back when exposing the truth about slaughterhouses and animal cruelty.

3. Despite being on many week long trips and vacations, I have no desire to travel excessively. I hate packing/unpacking, the travel process, and being in unfamiliar places.

4. I only have one thing on my bucket list, and that’s to swim with sharks.

5. I went to College for Fashion Arts and dropped out after a year and two months. I then took a year off and have since graduated from Media Communications.

6. I can count my amazing friends, the ones who would be there for me no matter what, on two hands. I have known all of them for a minimum for ten years.

7. I am the youngest sibling with an older brother (25) and older sister (27).

8. I would rather stay in on a Friday night with Netflix and a cold beer then go out partying anytime. I partied consistently from age fifteen to twenty-two so I’m fine doing so, knowing I’ve still experienced that lifestyle.

9. The amount of crime shows and documentaries I watch makes me irrational at times but I can’t stop. I am also (oddly) obsessed with watching Dr.Phil.

10. I spent December to June suffering from chronic insomnia and dealing with the backlash of living life with a sleep deprived mind.

just another day.

You waste time convincing yourself you’re at an awkward age. The feelings will pass when the stage does. Everyone goes through it. You remind yourself that every tomorrow is a new day. That means a new promise to be a better person. To do more, to be more, to be happy. Weeks pass and many tomorrows have since come and gone.

Some days your bed is the only comfort you have. Some days your dog is the only companion you need. Some days tomorrow will be an impossible thought. But one day the bad days, will be just another day on the calendar, getting lost in the idea that life’s not all that bad.

new puppy.

Sorry for the fewer posts. I got a ten week old puppy Monday night, Suri, and she definitely requires a lot of time and attention. She’s a Maltipoo and although adorable, I’ve found it especially hard to do anything without her. Feel free to give any tips or advice!

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the distorted reality.

Screen shot 2014-08-17 at 9.45.07 PMCrazy is hiding behind fluent sarcasm. It’s the distorted reality you lose yourself in, the dilated pupils you look through, the humor you use to dismiss the things that matter most. Crazy is your confidence that you can spend your life fighting the way things are meant to be, the way they’re meant to happen. It’s looking at life with eyes that say run. It’s beauty in ways you can’t understand. You’re running in circles wondering why the view is the same. You’re living your life with simple hopes to get by. You’re cursed with a brilliant mind you live to resent.

r.i.p good television.

BEN SAVAGE, DANIELLE FISHEL, ROWAN BLANCHARD, SABRINA CARPENTERAfter watching the new episode of Girl Meets World (as a 90’s child), I’m really interested in hearing others opinions on not only Boy Meets World vs. Girl Meets World but how television in general has changed over the last decade.

It’s frustrating to watch our favourite characters and potentially entertaining shows be turned into a script of quick remarks and one liners that don’t tend to come across as the producers may have hoped. We once spent hours absorbed by teen crisis’s and shook our head in acceptance when the moral of the episode was revealed in the final moments. We laughed, we smiled, and we truly did learn. Television now revolves around ratings not reality. Witty remarks, not wise. Controversy, not consistency.

comapny we think we want.

Screen shot 2014-08-18 at 10.32.17 PMOne day you’ll meet someone and they’ll numb you like a drug. You won’t feel real emotion – but life won’t seem so dark. Time will pass. You’ll fixate on your twisted thoughts and the person who compliments them. You’ll watch them destroy your dreams to build their own. You’ll believe something so bad is something you’ve always wanted.

Sometimes when we stay with people, it’s an addiction anchoring us to the company we think we want. We hate to accept that there are people out there who aren’t good for us. People who encourage bad habits and distort right from wrong. We feel so toxic to ourselves; we can’t believe being with someone could be worse then being alone.

the things you hate.

Screen shot 2014-08-25 at 8.50.26 PMYou can’t believe the world can look at you any different then the way your mirror does. Your self-image sits as a devil on your shoulder, whispering critique and hate.

You lay your clothes out the night before, shopping at the same stores they do. You buy extra promising foundation, hoping the haunting remains of your teens will soak into your skin. Your hair won’t grow the way you want it to, your body won’t shape your clothes the way you wish it would. You do everything to hide your imperfections. To erase the things you hate. To battle the impurities you hide behind day after day.

Don’t burden a beautiful mind with ugly thoughts. You’re more then a number on the scale. More then a number of likes on a picture. Be proud to be a paint-by-number and they’ll still look at you like art.

an uneasy circle.

You spend your days left to wonder where you went wrong, what you said in error. The ridiculous regrets that exhaust your mind. If your life has gone wrong and disappointment is constant, realization is the bittersweet battle. You now have the power of hindsight. The ability to use your past to revise your future.

Unfortunately, hindsight stirs anxiety. You over think the things you wish could be over and forgotten about. You think everyone remembers your mistakes without realizing they’re trying to erase their own. It’s an uneasy circle. You must choose to take control of your life or live in a distorted reality. You must never take for granted the power of a second or the power of a second chance.